Thursday, March 11, 2010

Laureen's Surprise Baby Shower

On Sunday, Arabella and I attended Laureen's baby shower at First and Last Tavern on Main Street. It had been a very long time since I had been on Main Street. Things sure have changed since I was life guarding at the Y in high school there! And it appears that the changes are for the better!



Laureen was so surprised since she just thought that she and her husband were meeting Arabella, Jay (who was not even with us) and myself for brunch. We are lucky that the surprise didn't send her into labor! It was a beautiful shower and the food was great! Arabella had fun at the shower and helped Auntie Laureen open some of her gifts! it was so nice to see Laureen, her mom Sylvia and Mary (a paralegal that Laureen and I used to work with).






Arabella, Laureen and me




Arabella and Mary

Congratulations Laureen (and Mark) on the upcoming arrival of your new little one! We can't wait to meet him or her!

Road Trip

Arabella and I took our first Girls Only Road Trip last weekend. This is a big deal for me since I hate to take car trips, my max in the car is about 3 - 4 hours and then I start to get pretty antsy. So me being the only driver, I was a little be nervous about making the 6 1/2 hour trek to Connecticut by myself. But it was a great trip, the drive is pretty and it was not too bad. I would have no problem doing this trip again.

The weather on our drive was beautiful. The sun was shining and there was not too much traffic. Arabella was happy watching her DVD player, which I never thought I would need. I was hesitant at first when Jay mentioned that he wanted to install one in my car. I hate to use the TV or DVDs to keep her occupied. It makes me feel like a bad parent, but sometimes it is the only thing that allows me to get things done. She also had a lot of healthy snacks to eat and was happy as a clam with all the books, toys and her Etch-A-Sketch from Uncle Mike.

Customs was not too bad...I am sure it could have been worse. I got "harassed" by the agent because I was driving a car that is still registered in Ohio. Yes, I know, we have been living here for over 3 months, and my car still has US plates. Quebec doesn't make it too easy to register your vehicle. You need to jump through a lot of hoops to get it done. Jay is working on it and hopefully it will be done soon. He also took away Arabella's grapes, I thought she was going to have a fit, but she seemed to know that now was not the time to have a meltdown! I was very happy when he handed back out passports and we were on our way!

The main reason for our road trip was to surprise my friend Laureen at her baby shower. We also wanted to see some family and friends that we had not seen in over a year! We stayed at Grampy & Heather's house. Arabella loved it! She was spoiled and even allowed to eat pickles for breakfast. Not what I would normally give her, but at least it is healthy and not full of sugar! She had so much fun playing with the cats and dogs. She even got to feed Patches, the turtle, his breakfast. I was amazed at how at home she was at Grampy's considering she had never stayed there before and all of the cats (4) and dogs (2) were new to her. She would chase Albert (her favorite cat) around and even ask for him as soon as she got up in the morning. She loved to pet Winks, and Winks loved it. Aston, the Akita, who was 4 times the size of her would let her climb all over him! I wish I had more pictures of her playing with the animals, none of them were cooperating for photos, they just wanted to play.


Arabella and Winks

Arabella also had her first lollipop - An Organic Ginger Pop! She loved it!



On Monday morning, we went to Target with Grampy! I was so excited to go to Target, I was having withdrawal since I had not been there since November! I was able to stock up on things that we can't get in Canada like my Morningstar Farms veggie burgers! Grampy and Heather also bought Arabella 4 new pairs of shoes and a bathing suit...THANK YOU! After our shopping trip, we went back to Grampy's and packed up the car. We were sad to leave, but had to go get Auntie Lori who was joining us on the ride back to Canada!

On the way to Auntie Lori's, we drive by the New Hartford reservoir, it was so beautiful, I stopped to snap a few pictures. It was the perfect early Spring day and sights like this that make me miss New England!





Our weekend went my way too fast and we can't wait to go back to Connecticut for Easter!

Play Date Fun

Last week, Arabella had two play dates before we took off for our Connecticut road trip.

On Tuesday, we met Emma and Lucas at Fundomundo. It was fun to see them play and it was great for me to have some adult conversation for a little while. We hope that we can meet up with Emma and Lucas again soon! I didn't get any pictures, but will next time.

On Wednesday, Arabella hosted her first play date at our house. Amelie and Arabella had fun reading, playing with her kitchen and enjoyed a snack of goldfish! They get along really well! Janet (Amelie's mom) and I enjoyed some tea in the sunshine of the playroom. We also spent some time reviewing my Smart Shopping Montreal book (this has become my shopping Bible) to see what sales and stores we are going to hit next! I think it may be the Chocolat Jean Talon sale that is coming up just in time for Easter. We have been told that this is where the Easter Bunny shops!



Tuesday, March 2, 2010

10 Weeks In

About 10 weeks ago, we left the comfort of the United States and officially became expats. A lot has happened in that time, some good, some bad. But we have made it this far. According to the conference call that I participated in last week with other Caterpillar wives who are expats, I/we are still in the honeymoon phase of our move/culture shock, and I agree with that. However, just recently I have noticed myself moving into the Negotiation Phase. For reference, below are definitions of the three phases of culture shock:

Honeymoon Phase - During this period the differences between the old and new culture are seen in a romantic light, wonderful and new. For example, in moving to a new country, an individual might love the new foods, the pace of the life, the people's habits, the buildings and so on. During the first few weeks most people are fascinated by the new culture. They associate with the nationals that speak their language and are polite to the foreigners. This period is full of observations and new discoveries. Like many honeymoons this stage eventually ends.

Negotiation Phase - After some time (usually weeks), differences between the old and new culture become apparent and may create anxiety. That sense of excitement will eventually give way to new and unpleasant feelings of frustration and anger as you continue to have unfavorable encounters that strike you as strange, offensive, and unacceptable. These reactions are typically centered around the formidable language barrier as well as stark differences in: public hygiene; traffic safety; the type and quality of the food.One may long for food the way it is prepared in one's native country, may find the pace of life too fast or slow, may find the people's habits annoying, disgusting, and irritating etc. This phase is often marked by mood swings caused by minor issues or without apparent reason. This is where excitement turns to disappointment and more and more differences start to occur. Depression is not uncommon.

Adjustment Phase - Again, after some time (usually 6 – 12 months), one grows accustomed to the new culture and develops routines. One knows what to expect in most situations and the host country no longer feels all that new. One becomes concerned with basic living again, and things become more "normal". One starts to develop problem-solving skills for dealing with the culture, and begins to accept the culture ways with a positive attitude. The culture begins to make sense, and negative reactions and responses to the culture are reduced. Reaching this stage requires a constructive response to culture shock with effective means of adaption.

I am sure many of you reading this are thinking, "You just moved to Canada, how can there be culture shock??". Here are some reasons for my (and some of Jay's) culture shock - I am sure there will be more in the future:

1. Mail - Canada Post only delivers mail Monday through Friday. In addition, it seems like the delivery of mail takes a long time. For instance, it took three days to have something delivered to us from the next town over. If you want to mail a letter within Canada it will cost you 57 cents...and to think we complained about 42 cents in the US.

2. Canadian Currency - I have to admit, Canada's money is pretty. It is colorful and depicts scenes other than presidents and national landmarks. But it is hard to adjust to a $2.00 coin and $1.00 coin, respectively called Toonies and Loonies. My wallet is so full of change it weighs a ton. The first time I broke a large bill and was handed back a fist full of change, I thought that the cashier was shorting me money. Then Jay reminded me about the Toonies and Loonies.

3. Spelling - Canadians use the British/English spelling for many words. For instance, they spell "fiber" as "fibre", "favorite" becomes "favourite", "defense" is "defence", "behavior" is "behaviour", "capitalize" is "capitalise". This is very hard for me to get used to since I am used to proofing documents, so when I see this spelling, I have to remember that it is not wrong, but just different.

4. News - News in Montreal, whether it is a local station or a cable news station, has a international feel to it. Don't get me wrong, they do cover what is going on in Quebec and the other Canadian provinces. But it seems like there is also more emphasis put on what is going on around the globe.

5. No Target (or equivalent) - This is very hard for me. The options that I have found so far are Wal-Mart and Zellers. We all know how I feel about Wal-Mart, and in case you don't remember, I hate it! And up her, it is no better. I have been to the one closest to our house twice and each time I left, I was in a panic. It was dirty, cramped, messy, and utter chaos. So I refuse to go. In hopes of trying to find my Canadian Target, I checked out Zellers. And boy was I disappointed. It is a step up from Wal-Mart, but just a half step. I keep telling myself that maybe it was just the location of the one that I went to and the other stores will be better, but I have a feeling that they won't be. I really miss Target!!

6. Hockey - Hockey is like religion. They have ice rinks in our neighborhood parks. Kids learn to skate as soon as they can walk. Today was a beautiful day out, and the kids were playing in the streets. After all, Canadians did invent the sport so we should expect nothing less.

7. Stores Close Early - I mean really early. The grocery store is only open until 9 pm. The mall closes at 5 pm on a Saturday night. Other stores close at 6 during the week. This is hard to get used to when you come from where stores are open until all hours and sometimes 24 hours!

8. Gas Stations - When was the last time you got your gas pumped for you? With the exception of New Jersey, I don't know of any place back in the States where you have full service stations. Don't get me wrong, every so often you see one there. But here, it is sometimes hard to find a station where you pump your own gas.

9. Right on Red - On the island of Montreal, it is illegal to turn right on red. If you get caught doing it, the fine is pretty steep. This is hard to adjust to. I really don't understand why they won't allow it, since once you leave the island (and you are still in the Quebec province) you can turn right on red.

10. Stop signs - They are used excessively. And I mean excessively. On one road that you need to take to get into our neighborhood that is probably 1 mile long, there are at least 12 stop signs. I am surprised that I have not burned through a pair of brakes yet. I don't understand this either, no one ever makes a complete stop and I think it incites road rage. I have been told that the excessive use of stop signs is only in the Quebec Province and not in other areas of Canada.

11. Service Roads - They have service roads that run along the highway. These are also hard to get used to. Seeing the other cars in your peripheral vision speeding by makes you want to speed up. But that is a big no-no since the speed limit is only 50 kilometers (roughly 32 mph).

12. Personal Space - I have found that many people here will get in your personal space. They will stand so close to you in line that if you turned around you would be face to face. They will push their grocery cart right up to yours and even when they talk to you they stand pretty close. This is taking some getting used to since I respect my personal space and that of others.

It's Finished

Arabella had a play date this morning and on the way home she fell asleep in the car. Since she has been sleeping, I have been able to do some cleaning around the house and I was able to finally put the finishing touches on our Master Bedroom.

I know that I am probably spoiled by the size of this room. And the fireplace, large windows, beautiful wood floors and sitting area don't help! It is a beautiful room any time of the day, but it is situated just right in the house so the sun fills it with light almost all day long.

My great grandparent's antique mirror just fits in the room and the wall that it is against is just perfect! We are lucky that it fits since we don't have the cathedral ceilings in this house that we have had in our past residences.







Now that it is finished, I am thinking of taking on a few projects in the room. I am searching for new nightstands. And I would like to make, yes, make, an upholstered headboard for the bed. Stay tuned...

Monday, March 1, 2010

Canadian Take On The Olympics

While checking the CBC news today, I came across this interesting take on the Olympics. It is nice to hear/see how another country, Canada, views what happened at the Olympics. This article was taken from: http://www.cbc.ca/olympics/story/2010/02/28/spo-top-ten-vancouver.html

Yes, we’re all exhausted and a tad past Olympic overdose, but here’s a list of 10 things we’ve learned during the Vancouver Games.

1. Three little words can cause such a ruckus.

Listening to the folks who call in to sports radio about a week into the Games, you’d have thought Own the Podium was the worst, most damaging three little words we’ve seen in this country since (fill in politically motivated shot at former government of your choice).

A week later, the same call-in show was filled with people glowing about the $117-million, five-year strategy to win the most medals in Vancouver.

The obvious difference was success — nine medals in Week 1 became 25 heading into the final Sunday.

We can argue ad infinitum about the three words themselves — perhaps there was a better phrase out there somewhere – but you can’t complain about the result. A great line going around on the final Saturday was that Canada didn’t own the whole podium, but it dominated the top step.

And isn’t that ultimately the point?

Yes, we know of one athlete, at least, who came crashing to Earth for a couple of days when she didn’t win a medal. That’s hard, certainly, but that, too, is athletics. And your money also buys the support that went to her afterwards.

This was Olympics No. 27 for your correspondent, and the first one where Canada unashamedly stated an intention to win. Think of the pride that was created. Sure did here, despite the old (correct) rule about not cheering in the press box.

By the way, the key is that money total — $117 million over five years. You want to feel that pride again, contact your local member of Parliament and tell him or her.

2. Winter athletes are the bravest of the brave.

In the winter, an athlete lies back on a tiny little sled and goes more than 100 km/h down a steep ice flume that can be deadly (as we learned before the Vancouver Games even began with the tragic accident of Georgian luger Nodar Kumaritashvili).

In the summer, many athletes go swimming.

In the winter, athletes hurl down an alpine slope of 70 degrees or so, carving through a tight turn, then another, then another, and fly over a ski jump the designer put in the middle of the run just to make things interesting.

In the summer, they throw a seven-kilogram shot put, screaming at the top of their voices.

You get the point. (Boxers and equestrians are exempt from this list, by the way).

3. Our medallists are hot (even the curlers).

Let’s review.

Alex Bilodeau (babe). Maelle Ricker (babe). Christine Nesbitt (Cute as heck). Jon Montgomery (couldn’t be cuter, in that hairy Canuck sort of way). Scott Moir and Tessa Virtue (could be Barbie dolls). Jasey-Jay Anderson (chiselled hot). The women bobsleighers (hot, hot, babe, babe). Joannie Rochette (chaud). John Morris (hotter than a pistol). Kevin Martin (…).

4. This is the song that never ends …

Canada’s Ashleigh McIvor won the women’s skicross gold medal.

McIvor, who grew up in Whistler, has apparently had well over a dozen separated shoulders in her career, caused it seems by ripping the humerus (the long bone in your upper arm) away from the right shoulder joint in one of a thousand or so ski accidents, meaning each time she fell on it, out it would pop again.

So medics, or anyone standing around, would pop it back in (ow!), and she’d hurt it again and they’d pop it back in (ow!) and she’d hurt it again and they’d pop it back in (ow!), and she’d hurt it again and they’d pop it back in (ow!) and she’d hurt it again ….

You could put music to it and sing it as a round. Ashleigh McIvor is our hero.

5. Canadian fans are paranoid, insecure bandwagon jumpers who are wonderful anyway.

On the morning after Canada lost to the United States in men’s preliminary- round hockey, you would have thought the world had fallen in on the students at a local college.

Every turn in the hall brought a new complaint of “Bench Chris Pronger,” or “Embarrased. I’m embarrassed,” or “We’re not even going to win a medal.” This was a preliminary-round game, for gosh sakes.

Same thing whenever something didn’t go the way the media or the Own the Podium folks said it was supposed to go in any sport. Heard it on the subway and bus. Saw it on TV. In the grocery store.

Broken ankles from jumping off the bandwagon from coast to coast to coast.

But you know, in perfect Canadian fashion when that bandwagon came back around the block again carrying the true believers and ready for another ride, everyone jumped back on, waving flags, screaming at the top of our voices ....

Did I say “our?”

6. In the IOC's view, "winter" is more a state of mind.

Note to the Lords of the Rings: If you want snow at the Winter Games, award them to cities that tend to have, well, snow.

Tired of listening to complaints about the weather in Vancouver being “not wintry”, a couple of CBCSports.ca folks sat down at a computer on Day 6 to check what was happening in Sochi, Russia, site of the next Winter Games in 2014.

It was 15 C, and raining. Looked a little harder at the temps in cities that have hosted the Winter Games going back to 1980 in Lake Placid. Everyone but one was over 0 C, many quite a bit past the mark.

The exception was Lillehammer, Norway (1994), where the thermometer was a crispy –15 C with high winds and blowing snow.

Much had been said about how this was the first Winter Games to be held in a big city. You know what? People tend to build big cities where it isn’t that cold.

Suggestions for 2018: Anchorage, Alaska; Björklidens Fjällänlaggningar, Sweden, or Stryn, Norway. The IOC poobahs will love it. Chill their champagne just by hanging the glass out a window for a minute or two.

7. Faster, higher, stronger doesn't have a place in figure skating any longer.

“Jon Stewart Mandela won the men’s free skate at the 2050 Winter Olympic Games here in Capetown, South Africa, today, performing the same classic routine that American Evan Lysacek used to take gold 40 years ago in Vancouver.”

You think that’s crazy? If the International Skating Union doesn’t change its current judging rules that could happen.

Russian Evegeni Plushenko (Voldemort) may be a twerp sometimes, but he was right about how the sport is going, taking away any need to push the outside of the envelope in order to win a gold.

(Just for the record, Voldemort didn’t deserve to win and should have been third instead of second – he’s boring).

We surely don’t need to go back to the era where jumping fools would win gold no matter how bad their choreography and performance skills were, but surely we can put bonus marks in there for reaching for more than just the average.

Otherwise, we will never see the quintuple toe loop.

8. Want to make some money? Build a curling rink in midtown Manhattan.

Lisa Quan, a vice-president in a big American media watch company, had this to say about curling during the Olympics:

"It's kind of hypnotic watching curling, everything moves very slowly and everything's very quiet, so you're really focused on what's going on."

Hardly the type of experience you’d expect to grab viewers in this age of American Idol and people sitting on other people’s chests while punching them in the head.

Stories also spoke of Wall Street brokers glued to the curling coverage on NBC, and flocking to a silly display on fake ice in the middle of a local park.

Curling. Chess on ice. Shuffleboard with brooms.

“Thanks for watching the Super Bowl on NBC. Next … championship curling.”

Gotta love it.

9. Moral victories are for losers — but fifth is pretty good in the downhill.

Is Canada’s Erik Guay, who finished fifth in both the men’s downhill and super giant slalom:

A: A loser.

B: A moral victor.

C: A guy with lousy luck in a sport where .001 means everything.

Answer: C.

Guay missed two podium finishes by the blink of an eye but somehow, according to some fans and media, is representative of the disappointment for Canada on the alpine slopes?

Most of our chances to make podiums were helicoptered off the hills of Europe throughout the fall and early winter World Cup season as Canuck after Canuck (led by medal contenders Jon Kucera and Kelly Vanderbeek) went down with injuries that would keep them out of the Games.

Secondly, there’s a reason alpine athletes don’t take the Games as quite so much of a be-all thing as other athletes — they know how hard it is to be on a podium any given race.

10. We will all take from these Games a memory that will stick for a long time.

Mine is Canadian Ivan Babikov, collapsing across the finish line fifth in the 30-kilometre cross-country ski race and then, after pulling himself together, getting up and saying how freakin’ disappointed he was. He wanted more, and that was wonderful to see.

He’s a new Canadian, emigrated from Russia. Welcome aboard, Ivan.

What’s your memory?

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I completed one of my 2010 Proposals...the dreaded clothes and shoe purge. I am amazed and some of the items that I have kept for way to long. I was able to get rid of items that were too small, too big, out of style, torn, stained or that just don't interest me. It took a long time to do and I had to do it over the course of a few days. But I am happy to say that it is done. And I think that I will do it again in the fall.

This is the heap that will be donated:



I will be spending this afternoon cataloging the items for tax purposes while Arabella is napping. It sure feels nice to have some space in the drawers and closet and to be giving the items to someone who is less fortunate.